The holidays can be a time full of excitement and wonder. However, it can also be a harried and stressful time for families and children. Hosting, holiday travel, social expectations and financial pressures can leave us feeling depleted and overwhelmed.
Here are a few things to remember this season.
Prioritize and manage expectations.
Yes, it’s easy to extend ourselves. There will always be more to do. So, try to prioritize. Take take stock of what’s most important and let the rest slide. It’s easy to get lost in the never-ending to do list and miss the meaning and the wonder of it all.
Tip: Ask each member of the family to list 2-3 things that make the holiday memorable. Maybe it’s decorating the tree or watching a holiday classic together. Then make a plan to integrate those elements into the holiday. Remind everyone to work as a team and take ownership of the plan.
If finances are a concern, be honest and let your child know that big gift that they were hoping for may not be in the budget this year. Communicate that gently and in advance. Without judgment, acknowledge their desires and any disappointment. Try to come up with other ways that you can share a meaningful holiday together. Maybe that’s by showing gratitude, helping someone in need, or exchanging less lavish or handmade gifts.
Stick to routines
The holiday schedule can be marked by multiple gatherings, unfamiliar faces and changes in diet. For some kids, too much change is overwhelming and can be anxiety-inducing. That could be something as simple as keeping some bedtime rituals and daily routines when travelling. Bring along that favorite book or that comforting Spiderman nightlight. Keep mealtime and sleep schedules where possible. For younger ones, try to keep the same nap or sleep routines.
Create down time
The holiday can be stressful. Both Kids and parents may benefit from some quiet time to replenish. That may mean taking time to go for a walk, listen to music, have a long shower, tinker with Legos or do nothing at all.
Self-care
Taking time to care for yourself during the holidays is key. Exhaustion and stress can creep up on us which can strain relationships and affect our parenting skills. Try to take care of your body and mind. Try to maintain a good sleep schedule for yourself. Take breaks. Get outside for a walk. Reach out for help or support when you need it.
By making a few changes, you can look forward to a more joyful and less stressful holiday season.
By Dr. Adrine McKenzie
Clinical Child Psychologist